Are there people in your life right now whom you are watching struggle?
Maybe they are dealing with consequences of choices that came about through a spiral of chaos they created in rebellion. Or perhaps it's more innocent - maybe they were are hurting over a situation that has been put upon them.
Sometimes it's hard to tell which is actually the real situation. Often our friends spin it one way, but there is more responsibility on their hands than they will admit to (or can even realize).
I just had a chat with someone about a principle I want to share with you.
When a friend needs a cocoon of hell to grow, be careful that your compassion in the right way does not cut it open in the wrong way... because your desire to spare them the journey that is needed to create the butterfly may actually work against what God is attempting to do in their life.
Our temptation is to want them to feel good about all the great things they've done or are doing, but in doing so we may corrupt the productivity that was happening by them hitting rock bottom.
Keep in mind, I'm not advocating we abandon our friends, for encouragement is always appropriate...
as long as it occurs in the right way and right timing.
Otherwise, you are asking the caterpillar to act like a butterfly... when you haven't allowed for the hard, uncomfortable, messy, painful, awkward metamorphosis to grow the wings that person we love needs to soar.
Or as my friend put it - sometimes when someone's back is against the wall, we do them a disservice by continuing to move it with what we think is positive help.
Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. "Make level paths for your feet," so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed. (Hebtews 11:7-13)