(If there's a command in the Bible that is difficult to keep, certainly this is one of the hardest.)
This past week I witnessed someone give an incredible gift of grace to another. I wish I could go into the details, because it's rather amazing. To honor that exchange and those people, though, I have to leave it at that.
But what I can tell you is what I was again reminded of.
The bottom line regarding grace and forgiveness means I/you don't hold anything against someone that I/you feel we have the right to.
Which, given Jesus and all, should be easier for us than it often is.
Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble.
But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness; he does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded him.
I write to you, dear children, because your sins have been forgiven on account of his name. (1 John 2:9-12)
Actually, yeah... you do.
You have no been given permission by God in any situation other than unrepentant sin to snub your nose against someone. By crossing the bridge of sin to reconcile with us, Jesus has asked to "follow Him" and do the same.
I know that runs against the grain of what society teaches, but that's just the point - a broken way of doing things only leads to more brokenness.
You will know this is truly working in your life when you think of that certain person and poison doesn't come up to the top of your neck as bile ready to spit out.
If you're still holding a grudge that you feel superior about...
you can let it go already...
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)